Saturday, October 14, 2017

YAB Teens are talking about the teen experience, Parent engagement and communication... Part 2.

A GREAT read for Parents, teachers, counselors... anyone interacting with teens today. The teen experience and how we can support them.  So compelling, if we can take the time to really listen to what our teens are going through.

Q.  If at times your Parents don’t really understand things and what you’re going through, what do you want them to know?
A.  I appreciate how much you care about me and I know that you want to be involved in my life.  I know how to behave and I would like more independence.
A. Please just try to listen and gain perspective instead of lecturing or telling me about how things were for you.  
A.  I’m trying my best to do everything to the best of my abilities… but sometimes I just can’t.
A.  I want you to know that I have bad social anxiety and its effecting my actions and what I do and don’t do.
A.  Sometimes your too strict about little things.  You don’t trust me even though I’ve never given you a reason not to.  Please be more understanding.
A.  Kids may experiment with drugs and alcohol and may become addicted, and you may not know it.
Q.  What is a good way for Parents to respond and/or start a conversation with you AND respond to you?
A.  “Hey… how’s it going?  If you ever need to talk I am here for you.”  If they would talk to me like this…. It makes me feel like they actually want to listen and hear what I have to say.
A.  “Hey, how was your day?  How are you feeling?”
A. “How is ____________ going?”  “How are you feeling about ________?”  “Is there anything I can do to help you with _____________?”
A.  “Did anything happen at school today?”
A.  “I know that you’re a good kid…..” 
A.  Just say “Hi.” When I get home not a whole lot of conversation.  Start that a little later after I’ve had some time to just be home.
A.  “I understand you are a teenager and a lot of things are happening around you right now.”
A.  “How do you feel today?”  “OK… I will get you help so you don’t feel like this anymore.”
Q.  What’s it like to be a teen today?  Describe your teen experience…the good, the bad, what it's like for you?  
A.  Being a teen today is hard.  But it can also be so much fun.  I’ve found that with all the drugs and alcohol going on around me, it’s a challenge to hold true to my morals and refrain from following the crowd.  And, I imagine that’s how many people my age feel.  But I also feel that being a teen can be fun, new and exciting when you find the right people to surround yourself with. 
A.  It is very hard with all the pressure to do the right thing and to prepare for your future.  It is also very stressful to do things for fun with all the school work we have.  Then there is the extreme social pressure to fit in with everyone.
A.  It’s rough.  People are not as nice or honest as they should.  School is hard.   People just need to be kinder to each other.  
A.  It’s a high-pressure roller coaster.  You can feel on top of the world.  The suddenly feel like you are in the pit.  The added stress of school, sports and extras make it that much harder. 
A.  If we’re involved in a bunch of activities it gets overwhelming and tough.  Sometimes the best way to avoid social pressures and anxiety it to just NOT go to some of the school/social events at all.
A.  Being a teenager today takes the courage to say no to our generations norms (vaping, sexting, drugs).
A.  There is a LOT of peer pressure for all sorts of things (drugs, alcohol, vapes).
A.  Peer pressure.  Very high expectations from everyone, and trying to be “cool”.
A. Being a teen today is awesome!  School, sports, and clubs are all demanding and thinking about my future is stressful, but fun is still fun!  Like when we’re just hanging out with friends, listening to music, going to the movies… just being with our friends J
Q. What do you need that you are not getting from someone, whether it’s your Parents, Peers/Friends, or the Schools/Community?
A.  Sometimes I need to talk to my Parents about things but I feel they won’t understand.  So, I just feel I need to try to be more open and understanding to what I’m going through and what I am sharing with them.
A.  Parents need to be more understanding of what their kids are going through.  I think they need to listen to their kids more and not just lecture and punish them.
A.  I need everyone to understand that is it so hard to be a teenager today and I wish that they would all be more supportive.
A.  What I think I need is for everyone else to be informed about the dangers of smoking, marijuana and vaping.   And, then to act on that knowledge.
A.  I want our schools to educate students about the harm of vape.  A vape assembly with scientific evidence would be effective in middle and high schools.
A.  More leadership advice on college preparation, college life and applications, testing, essays, etc.
A.  I would like to be listened to and for people to actually listen to my problems and then help me to resolve them. 
Q.  What do you think is the biggest teen issue today?  
A.  The biggest issue I believe would have to be the drugs and partying.  Teens fall into it because there is so much pressure but also many parents aren’t disciplining their kids.
A.  I think mental health issues, specifically the fear of failure on many levels.  And, substance abuse of vapes and drinking is also a big problem with teens right now. 
A.  Vaping.
A.  We are greatly influenced by the music we listen to and by the strong urge to fit in with our peers.
A.  Mental health and anxiety.  We have a LOT of pressure and too often kids turn to substances to “let loose”.  We can prevent that with better support. 
A.  Many teens today smoke weed and are using vapes and they think this it this is not harmful. 
A. Extreme stress from school. Parents and friends leads to drug and alcohol use. 
A.  I feel like mental health is an issue that people don’t talk much about.  I also feel that adults don’t understand how hard it is to go to school every day and then do everything else (work, sports, church, activities, etc.)
Q.  What is your primary influence to be drug-free?  How do you think you are able to stay true to that with so much pressure?
A.  I personally feel I don’t need that in my life because I want to stay healthy and in control.  I feel that I can have fun without drugs or alcohol and that I would regret doing it.  
A.  I think it’s really myself.  I want to do well in the future -- I don’t want my life to go down-hill.
A. My influence to be drug-free is to protect my body.
A.  I chose a friend group that doesn’t care what others think as much.  And, I stay away from drugs because I know that things would only get worse in my future.  
A.  My Parents showing me that I can have fun without substances.
A.  I care about my future.   
A.  I know that everything is temporary.  I want to make the most of my time and keep a clear mindset.
A.  I see other people my age making poor decisions and it influences me.
A.  My influence is knowing what it leads to.  And also seeing what the people I love went through.  
Q.  What is something that you will work towards or focus on?
A.  Learning to overcome academic challenges.
A.  A strong focus on the things that really matter in life. 
A.  Making my school a safer place.


Thursday, September 14, 2017

THIS Q&A Blog is a must read!. YAB Teens are talking about Parents…. What they wish Parents knew and communication.

Q.  What do you wish your Parents knew about you (or teens in general) that they don’t know or understand?

A.  I wish my Parents understood that a lot of teenagers ARE responsible to make good choices and hangout with our friends.  We will only go through high school this one time, they need to allow us to be in the position to make decisions for ourselves.

A.  I wish they knew that sometimes when I get home from school I don’t want to talk and would like to relax for a while.  We have a full life in school and that we are tired when we get home.

A.  That I go to a school where other kids feel socially pressured all the time and a lot of them give into that pressure.

 A.  I wish my Parents knew that sometimes support can be in the form of giving me alone time or silence.

A.  I wish Parents were more understanding of all the stress that is put on teens today.  A lot of people think that being a teen is easy but there are so many more expectations to succeed, to get into a good college to do everything well… and then there is a lot of peer pressure.

Q.  How do you want your Parents to talk to you?  When is a good time to talk and when is NOT a good time to talk?

A.  I want them to talk respectfully to me.

A.  I want my Parents to talk to me, even though it might not seem like it.  A good time to talk is during dinner or in the car, but talking to me and interrupting something I’m in the middle of doing is not good.

A.  I want my Parents to talk to me when I’m not vulnerable.  It’s a good time to talk after an event happens and I need to discuss something.  But, I don’t like being talked at or lectured.

A.  I would like my Parents to talk to me in a more interested, considerate, and less authoritative tone.  A good time to talk is if something is troubling me.  A bad time to talk is when I’m doing homework, relaxing or right after practice or a game.

A.  Parents should be open to having good conversations where they give their undivided attention (no distractions).  It’s not a good time to talk to me in the morning or immediately after school.

A.  I would like my parents to talk to me like I am an adult, because I really am almost an adult.  More like they support me and want to help, rather than lecture and talk at me.

A.  I wish my parents wouldn’t try to make a big deal about talking to me…. I feel that discussion should come naturally.

A.  A good time to talk is at family meals or when saying good night… ask if there is any news or updates, ask how we are feeling/doing and ask how they can help.

Q.  What do you think Parents are doing that they shouldn’t? 

A.  Trying to talk to me right after school as soon as I get home or when I’m pre-occupied with homework or something that is academic related.

A.  Parents aren’t asking specific questions about their children’s life – like their school day, who their friends are, where they are going, who will be there, etc.

A.  I think Parents need to find a balance of being too lenient and too controlling. 

A.  I think Parents shouldn’t snoop to find information about their teen. 

A.  Parents are putting too much pressure on their kids.  Motivation should come from within sometimes.

A.  Some parents don’t care if their teens vape. 

A.  I think some Parents are too “hands-off”.  I think being involved in your childs’ educations is helpful.

Q. What do you think Parents do that is right effective/appropriate/helpful?

A.  Some Parents do a good job of keeping track of their teen and try to keep them from doing drugs.

A.  I think it’s good when Parents hold their teen to high standards and consequences for the bad choices they make.

Q.  Do you think Parents really realize the amount of stress and pressure Teens are feeling AND, do you think Parents are adding to the stress and pressure Teens are feeling? 

A.  No, they think school and social life is as easy as it was decades ago, but that’s not the case.  Colleges have a lot more expectations when it comes to academics and extracurriculars.  Plus, we have to balance a job and dealing with relationships.  I think Parents are definitely adding to that stress.

A.  I don’t think Parents understand the amount of stress and pressure that teens are facing today.  I think they actually add to the stress when they ask a lot of questions about our progress and with that almost demand perfection.

A.  No, I do not think they understand the level of stress and pressure, and yes, I think they definitely add to it.

A.  No, I don’t think Parents are aware of the environment teens socialize in – there’s a lot of pressure.  I think poor communication and relationships between Parents and their children can bring added stress.

A.  I think that they actually do realize this but they don’t know how to adjust their behavior accordingly so that their child doesn’t feel even more stressed.

Q.  Are you able to communicate effectively with your Parents? If YES, can you describe how you think you mutually achieve it… if NO, what do you wish for?

A.  No, personally for me my Parents are usually too busy at work and are too tired to talk to me after they get home.  I would wish for them to understand that I have things that I do want to discuss with them.

A.  Yes, I am very honest with my Parents and by constantly sharing information with them it helps to keep our relationship open and their trust in me.

A.  Sometimes I’m able to communicate with my Parents by telling them how I feel, why I feel that way, and how they can help me – if we are talking in a calm tone it really helps.

A.  Yes, because we communicate with each other every day.

A.  Yes.  We sit at the kitchen table and talk.  We can agree to disagree and we respect each others opinions.

A.  I don’t think I’m able to communicate effectively with my Parents because they think that I’m trying to make them say what I want them to say.  I wish my Parents would trust me and what I’m trying to do.

Q.  Do you feel Parents really know/understand what’s going on with Teens today?

A.  No, I don’t think Parents know how much partying their teens are doing or the substances that they are using. 

A.  No, I don’t think Parents really know what is happening due to the influence that technology has on our lives – and for the most part, Parents are not able to keep up with that technology.

A.  No.  Parents lack the knowledge of the amount of drug and alcohol use that is going on with teens today.

Q.  What do you think is the primary issue for Teens and how do you think we can communicate that to Parents?

A.  I think the primary issue for teens today is coping with stress in appropriate ways.  I think it should be communicated much more in Parent meetings with teachers, counselors, etc.

A.  Stress….about our future and college.  It is getting very competitive and for teens in our community and it is very stressful.

A.  I think the issue right now is teens thinking vapes are safe.  We need to tell Parents so they can have discussions with their children.

A.  School stress combined with extra curriculars and a social life…. Just trying to balance it all is stressful.

A.  Teens think it’s cool to do drugs.  I think having Parent meetings with the schools and guidance counselors so they can communicate to the Parents the issues they see from the teens they see and talk to everyday.

A.  Stress and ill relationships are the primary problem for teens.  We should be more open to talking to our Parents.

Q.  Any other thoughts on Parent Communication, Parent Engagement, Parent Awareness, Understanding, etc.…?

A.  Parents should know about vapes… a lot of kids are doing this.  Parents should be more aware of what’s going on and with the behavior of their own kids.

A.  Parents need to be more engaged with their children and understand the stress they are under and what they are going through.

A.  Parents should aim to be as close as they can with their teens, to help them succeed and live responsible lives.









Tuesday, July 25, 2017

CHECK IT OUT… The Youth Action Board meeting dialogue is a great way to tap into what’s going on with our teens today.

YAB Teens are talking about their concerns, stress & pressure, what can be done, how they cope AND why the youth voice matters.

What are you most concerned with right now?  And, why do you think this is a problem?

Teens who turn to alcohol and drugs when they are overwhelmed by school.  And, young people who grow up thinking it is “okay” to drink.  It is a problem that teens can’t find a better coping skill.  And for teens who drink – underclassmen who look up to upperclassmen get the idea that it is “okay” to abuse substances.

Teens overwhelmed by school, peer pressure, expectations and feeling trapped.  It’s a problem because many teens don’t have self-confidence and are more prone to falling into drinking and drug use.  The number of teens who participate in these things continues to grow.

Vape.  Teens believe it’s not harmful and we don’t have enough research or information coming at us on its harm.  And because teens and young adults are always looking for new ways to get high, or a certain feeling from doing drugs.  They are looking for an outlet from stress and life in general.

College application stress.  Most of my friends talk about their uncertainty of where to apply or what major they would like.  It’s a life changing decision and has a lot of impact on our future…. Making decisions and uncertainty like these cause a lot of stress.

I am concerned with partying.  Teens are drinking and smoking behind their parents’ backs.  It’s a problem because most of the time they get away with it and come to think there won’t be consequences.

Who do you think we should talk to and what needs to be done to address the problem?

We need much stronger education.  We need to talk to the schools – the Board members -  and make them more aware.   Schools should hold assemblies and class-room sessions on substance use, it’s harm and the consequences we can face.  We should talk to and bring in the Police to talk to us and our parents about protocol and the laws in our communities.

We should target freshman and seniors.  Freshman need to be taught to establish and maintain good morals.  Seniors need to be reminded to be good role models.

We all need to do more…. talk to and educate Parents – get them engaged and encourage them to talk to their kids!

Bring more attention to the rising Vape trend – tons of kids are doing it!  Schools and Parents need to know and teens need to understand the harm.

Do you think there is a link between Teen stress, pressure, anxiety and substance use? 

Yes – most definitely there is.  Teens don’t know how to cope so they resort or turn to substances.  Also, when teens are stressed, they aren’t in a right frame of mind and are more likely to do things they shouldn’t.

How do YOU cope with stress and pressure?  

I vent/talk to my Mom about anything that is bothering me.  I trust her and that she will keep what we talk about private.

I cope by watching TV, listening to music, go for a walk or exercising.

I like to plan things out – everything I need to do for the day or week. 

I take the time to focus and get in the right head space – and face deal with what is causing me stress.

Why is the youth voice and presence important in Coalition/Teen prevention work?

It’s important because it’s easier to speak and listen to people who teens can associate and relate to.  Peers caring about peers is very powerful.

Teens should have a voice because we are the ones being affected by this work and we know and understand our peers and what they are going through.

It gives us a chance to speak about what’s on our minds and what we are experiencing.  It’s important and rewarding that our voices are being heard.

What’s your influence to live drug-free?

I don’t want to ruin my future over having a good time, when there are so many other ways to have a good time in high school.

I am an athlete and I plan on pursuing my athletic career in college.  Drugs and alcohol will only reduce my chances of success in college.

My future… and to be in control.

I want to live a long healthy life and I don’t want anything to get in the way of me being able to ALL the things I want to do.

I want to be someone I am proud of.





BBCC is dedicated to providing resources to students and parents in the mental health and wellness of our teens.  We look to support you in prevention intervention and overall support where you need it most.  The YAB is a great resource to tap into the teen mind, voice and is an open and inclusive point of view on how to handle life in these exciting and challenging times.

Friday, June 2, 2017

CHECK IT OUT… YAB Teens are talking about the rising trend in Vapes, what’s concerning them now, what needs to be done, and what keeps them grounded.

We’ve been hearing about a rising trend in e-cigs, vapes and hookah sticks.  Are you aware of this?  And, how, when and where do you think teens are engaging?

Yes!  Kids will literally vape whenever they can.

Yes… teens are using vapes in schools, in their cars, at home, practically everywhere.

Yes, teens are vaping all the time in class, in the bathrooms, and  in their cars in the school parking lots

A lot of teens think it’s a safer substance and don’t know the real facts or science behind it.

I think vape is a trend among teens because people think it looks “cool”.

So, teens just don’t believe it’s harmful.  So, what can be done to better educate both teens and parents?

Teens should be educated on the fact that vape is harmful and addictive

I think that you HAVE to get the message out to kids as young as possible (elementary and middle school).  It will have a greater impact and stay with them.  High school is too late.

We all need to do more…. talk to and educate Parents – get them engaged and encourage them to talk to their kids!

Bring more attention to the consequences of vaping both at schools and give Parents the education and resources they need.

More support, education and awareness for social media/on-line pressures.

As we near the end of the school year, what else is on your mind and concerning you right now? And, what should be done to address it?

I am concerned that it is hard to reach kids and inform them about the cost of abusing alcohol, drugs and substances like vapes

As the school year comes to a close, more and more kids start to slack off and make choices.  We should let the teachers/staff/counselors know about this and have them make sure that students are still motivated about school.

I’m concerned about summer parties and kids getting caught up in things and getting actively involved with substance use.  We should try to inform teens in our school in a way that impacts them.

Finally, what keeps you grounded…. What’s your influence to be drug-free and to make good choices even when you feel pressured?

My conscience keeps me grounded.  I care about my future.

Knowing that it is wrong and will NOT help my future.

I want to have control over my body, my mind and my future.

My influence is my future in academics and doing well in school, with my family and in life.




BBCC is dedicated to providing resources to students and parents in the mental health and wellness of our teens.  We look to support you in prevention intervention and overall support where you need it most.  The YAB is a great resource to tap into the teen mind, voice and is an open and inclusive point of view on how to handle life in these exciting and challenging times.

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

YAB Teens are talking about trends and concerns with teen substance use and their experience with the YAB.

What is concerning you most right now with teen substance use?

A lot of kids binge drink and don’t realize how dangerous it is.

I think it’s concerning that some Parents know about it, but are passive or even seem to encourage it.

The carelessness of making the choice to drink or use drugs and the lack of awareness for the consequences.

How easy it is to get a hold of alcohol, drugs and other substances.

The super high use of Juuls and the amount of vaping going on.

The fact that kids are using alcohol, drugs and vapes so commonly and don’t really see an issue with it.

What do you think needs to be done about it?

Find and present them with statistics and stories of how dangerous binge drinking is.

I think the consequences should be different (and enforced) because for the most part, they can easily bypass the current ones.

Talk to and educate Parents.

Get more Parents involved!

Find a way to stop the distribution of drugs and make it harder for teens to have access.

Bring attention to the consequences of vaping.

More support, education and awareness for social media/on-line pressures.

We often talk about the stress and pressure teens are feeling from Parents, School and each other.  What do you need OR what will help teens better cope and handle the stress and pressure?

We need an outlet to let out the stress like a sport or club that kids can do for fun.  Kids that aren’t on Varsity or in NHS or Leadership…. need an outlet too.

I think that teens need to be exposed to different coping mechanisms because not everyone has access to help/support.  And not everyone responds well to one method.

Parents shouldn’t give their children as many expectations.  Let them choose their path.

How do you handle peer pressure when in a situation where other were drinking or smoking?
I don’t let other people affect my choices because if they are my friends, then they will respect my decisions.

Personally, I am not susceptible to peer pressure because I am aware of the consequences and I always think ahead.

I’ve gotten myself out of it by walking away or have left a party early.  I didn’t really say much, I just left.

I have just said that I wasn’t interested.

What are your thoughts on Prom and Graduation?  These are definitely seen as “party times”.  High School should be celebrated but what can be done to make these safer and less pressure on everyone?
They are “big” events that create life long memories…. But I think drinking and partying negatively impact those memories.

I think the schools could do a better job of spreading and encouraging a healthy message about these events.

I think Parents should lock up their alcohol and if they are hosting a party at their house actually monitor the kids.
What do you think is unique about the Youth Action Board?
It is a group of teens from the same area that feel the need and want to create alternative activities that don’t involve drugs or drinking.

The YAB has really helped open my mind and I’m more aware of what is going on in my community.

The YAB is unique because it lets young people have a voice and makes them more aware of what’s really happening.

They get stuff done. 

I have gotten the knowledge and connections to improve my community.

It is a great space to share how we feel.  I feel I’ve gotten a safe space to be, and I feel like I’m not alone in my convictions and concerns.



BBCC and the YAB are dedicated to providing resources to students and parents for the mental health and wellness of our teens.  We take a positive, thoughtful approach in prevention, intervention and overall support where you need it most.  The YAB is a great resource to tap into the teen mind and voice and provides an open and inclusive point of view on how to handle life in these exciting and challenging times.

Friday, February 24, 2017

YAB Teens on stress, pressure, anxiety AND What WE NEED to KNOW about Parent/Adult/Community awareness and engagement with teens in dealing with all of it.

We hear it all the time… “They just don’t understand.”

So…. what do you wish they knew?

Parents should realize how much pressure we are already have, we just need their support.

We want to be able to make our own decisions, not just what our parents want us to do.

I wish they knew about the real strengths and weaknesses of their kids… and not just what they perceive  or want them to be.

I wish parents understood teenage circumstances so that they could be more understanding of our situations.

I wish they would be more responsible themselves and then realize that their children are NOT Angels… then at times can be little devils.

I wish they knew that things are going on, and instead of trying to protect and shield us from everything, that they would discuss with us the facts, the consequences and give good reasons why NOT to get into those things.

I wish my parents knew that although I’m stressed and busy, I am fine.  I really do like a busy life.

I wish they were more aware of what goes on when they aren’t home and how some kids have parties and do drugs with their friends they aren’t home.

That teenagers (especially for those that are first born) never got a full warning of how complicated our lives would become.  Stress is the worst part about a high school and it makes going to school extremely challenging.

What do you wish they would ask you OR NOT ask you?

I wish they would ask how they could help you and not criticize what we are doing.

I wish they would ask me about my homework and then let me talk about my day if I feel like it.

I wish my parents would not ALWAYS ask me who I am with and where I am going.

I wish they would ask us what we learned…. AND about our friends and the choices they are making.

I wish they would ask me what may have stressed me out that day.

I wish they would NOT CONSTANTLY bug me to do my homework, or ask if I need help.  I think they should wait for their kids to ask them for help, or just try to offer help from time to time – but not constantly.

When is a good time for your parent to talk to you OR NOT talk to you?

It is a good time to talk to me when we are driving somewhere together in a car, over dinner or any other time than when I am obviously occupied.

Anytime, we should answer you… just talk to us.

I think letting your kid start the conversation is the best way to get an open and honest dialogue.

A good time to talk to me is usually on weekends.

A good time to talk is right after practice or school, or longer car rides together.  Bad times are when I am relaxing or doing homework.

Driving in a car, or traveling.  When we are relaxing, or trying to…. there’s a higher chance the kids will be annoyed because their time to relax was interrupted.

It is not a good time to talk on a school night when there is a lot of homework, tests the next day because these conversations get really fleshed out and take a lot of time.  Weekend dinners are normally a good time to talk.

It is not a good time to talk to me immediately after school or before school about my grades.  I am CONSTANTLY thinking about grades and I don’t like to think about them at 7:AM or right after I get home from school.

A good time to talk to me is when I’m relatively unstressed, and when my schedule is less busy, not when I come home from somewhere or when I’m about to leave.

How should your parents or other adults talk to you in a way that they are NOT talking to you now?

I wish they would ask me more specific questions about school and homework… not just how my day went.

I wish parents weren’t so condescending or talk to you as if you don’t know what you think.  I wish they eased more into conversations.

Try to allow your child to start the conversation if you’ve already had the conversation multiple times before.  Also, try to be understanding and not judge their choices… but make sure they know if it goes against your values, that it’s not an OK idea or choice.

Parents should help teens make choices but ultimately teens should feel empowered enough to make their own decisions.

How can Parents better understand Social Media and what you’re doing or NOT doing on it?

They can ask and allow me to explain OR get involved and try to understand the activity on social media isn’t bad.

Give them some privacy.  You can follow them and check in once in a while.  Do NOT stalk their friends, that can make both your child and their friends uncomfortable.

I don’t think a lot of parents know how nasty social media can get and how some kids can get in trouble with colleges just by posting a picture or something they might not think is bad or inappropriate.

I think that they should understand that everyone is connected, so everyone sees everything.

What do you want them to hear from you that they don’t seem to hear?

When I try explain or answer them, who I am hanging out with, my friends OR when I try to tell them how difficult things are for me.

Sometimes we are in uncomfortable situations, but we don’t know how to approach you without making you mad or disappointed.

What do Parents NOT get?

How everything works and appears from MY teenage perspective.

Parents don’t get that we can’t be perfect.   And, sometimes we just need a break.

We ALL make mistakes, and WE should be the one ones fixing them when we make them.

Parents don’t get that kids aren’t always trying to do bad things when they go out.  Going to a football game really can mean to go a football game.

Parents don’t get that it is a trend to abuse drugs at parties and that any teen could make a bad decision to drink or use drugs.

They don’t understand the social pressure and school pressure we face every day.

What is the difference between strict and being concerned?

Strict is overbearing and a form of being concerned but with lots of restrictions.

Strict is being overbearing, controlling their kids’ lives.  Concerned is being there when needed.

Allow for mistakes, but talk to your child, and keep talking to them.

Strict is when parents won’t let you do certain things like leave the house or go out with friends and being concerned is letting you have freedom but making sure that you are safe.

Being concerned is just checking that things are okay.  Being strict is not allowing kids to do something even with unwarranted reason.

Teens should have freedom BUT you as parents, adults, schools and the community should always be aware of their safety.

Being strict is putting a lot more pressure on kids than being concerned.  Being strict is less about the emotional health, being concerned is.

Strict is making assumptions and enforcing rules without asking.  Concerned is asking what we think, feel and talking about how we act.

Strict is enforcing without listening.  Concerned is listening and supporting after listening.

What and who are you most concerned with right now?  How can we (Parents, Schools, the Community) support you?

I’m most concerned with soccer and school… getting into college.  I need more encouragement, not pressure.

School, tests…. Everything is overwhelming.

Standardized test scores and grades... c just be supportive and encouraging.

From what I see, Parents sometimes are the ones allowing these things (teen drinking and partying) to happen.

I’m concerned about the abuse of prescription drugs and how parents don’t know that teens are taking way too much of a dosage in a single day.

I am concerned about suicidal teens and teens that don’t feel supported by their parents and teens that don’t feel comfortable with their home life.  There are more than any of us are aware.

I am most concerned about my future.  School, teachers, etc.… could put less pressure on me to get into the BEST college.  Parent could help me by letting me make my own decisions.





BBCC is dedicated to providing resources to students and parents in the mental health and wellness of our teens.  We look to support you in prevention intervention and overall support where you need it most.  The YAB is a great resource to tap into the teen mind, voice and is an open and inclusive point of view on how to handle life in these exciting and challenging times.